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Published: 2026-11-01

# Love dries faster than ___ (well if you know Bukowski)

Well so last year I was talking to this amazing girl from AM scene, purely online. She was pretty, cute and kind. There was this particularly 6th sense power in her, almost like woodoo mind reading power. Pure hearted she was, had she been tempted by dark side I'm sure she would be the Cersei of the house and rule all over us. I ain't kidding on this party, it's impossible to lie to her, she can read you like a book and if willing manipulate you like her play doll or something. Well, luckily she liked me so she was nice to me.

But then there were demands - no non-veg at home, can't even order in. Only gonna live in bangalore, even though she lived in Delhi most of her life. Hasn't been working for a year and don't want to work post marriage cuz child rearing is a very difficult job and she want her kid to be the best.

Well, I was pretty miserable back then, I had lost all hope in this scene to begin with, I was battling with fall out, PIP, financial commitments and what not. And this seemed like a rare chance in life I might finally be after all gonna marry right. Anyways, long story short, I just couldn't bring myself to say yes, there was something which was hard to place. We never met in person to begin with. But after 1 months of that I said, I need space and I need to work on myself.

I regretted the decision man. I was 33, I am too late in the game. But anyways, I worked on myself and 2 months later I thought to tried to reach out to her. She dilly dallied for a week and then finally informed me that her roka has been done and engagement has been fixed. It was a blow, not gonna lie. I regretted it all.

Now few months back I found out that her engagement broke off since I saw her profile again online on shaadi. This was as if lord has given me a second chance, so I pursued her again. Naturally she was in no condition to talk, distraught she was. The guy turned out to be a con man, with his father being the goon of the area. I tried to give comfort and confidence but she didn't want anything from the past. Eventually she blocked me completely.

Now 2 weeks back I was in thailand, chilling all alone doing solo trip. Regretting over all the past missed opportunities, how things would have been if it had been that. So I just picked up my phone and called her up and it seems I was unblocked. She called me back after sometime and then we talked for a bit. As I started listening to her, I completely lost interest.

I mean the whole thing just vanished. She rambled about her needs, plans and how she has changed her views and how she has learned. And there I remembered why I said no to her in the first place. She over exaggerate a lot, that's my ick I realized. I mean all women do that but her thing is like she is so amazing that she did it. Like if she went from house to railway station, it's so amazing she did it, no other girl can do it apparently. Cuz she has done intense and exteme meditation and extreme level of thinking and extreme level of micro level process refinement and developed an ultra understanding which on one could. I hated talking to her. Not wanting to work post marriage is still her game and vegeterian hi chaiye. hatt! kyu jhelu me isse. I just said some kind words to her whatever I could and ended the conversation.

All the love I had for this girl just dried instantly.