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A man on mission to date women in 30s: JP nagar edition
Well, after my last post I got few outreach from folks who wanted to know if I have considered other friendly neighbourhood except HSR. I must admit, I have never thought about it and now that I have, I can see some patterns already. HSR scene is ruled by pre-revenue founder and Indiranagar scene is ruled by post revenues ones. JP nagar, I am too sure. Archeological evidence suggest that therapy as a religion originated from there perhaps in 2010 AD.
But since the question were specific to JP nagar, I shall endeavour to write my conquest there to build a basic decor for my dear readers. And as requested this time no AI slop.
The scammer
Though I wouldn't call it a woman in 30s, but I must include in my list since it was perhaps the worst experience I have had and it's a hard lesson learned. Pretty she was, said she studied in jain college, heard about it for the first time and it's reputation immediately get cemented in my brain. She wanted to meet in a pub only, which is fine, but as the conversation progress she kept ordering more and more expensive drink. Now I'm wondering is she actually rich or the whole bill is on me. No surprises, it's the later, apparently she is broke and she needs to get going to a concert and getting late and she doesn't even have money to book a cab either. Well me being a worshipper I paid and booked cab. Only to be later be unmatched and blocked from whatsapp. It was easier to drag myself home since my wallet was lighter that day.
The therapist on therapy
This one is pretty insane, but in my dating roster this possibly doesn't even make it in top 5. She is a psychiatrist at NIMHANS and I'm guessing after dealing with so many patient the nuance of speaking to regular person is lost on her. She spoke to me as if I'm in 5th grade and she is a teacher giving me instructions. Dressed very provocatively, fully exposed cleavage, every man head turn in the cafe even though she was a 3 at best. Just that power move made me nervous, but steel my nerve I played along. Later we got drunk and then I invited her to my place. Scene went downhill from there. Suddenly she remembered she forgot her own psychiatric medication and I'm being blamed for not telling her in advance that I was planning to invite her home. You should expect, well then that's easy, go back home. Well we did, turned out she was locked out of her apartment since her flatmate is out and now I'm driving all around bangalore 10pm in night looking for a specialized medicine which is obviously being sold inside nimhans campus authorized shop since that shit is too OP. Her annoyed roommate who hates her anyways, finally got home and delivered the meds via swiggy while she got completely wasted at my place ranting about her trauma, I'm told her cheating boyfriend is with someone else right now and she is here for the revenge and started barking orders at me to take her clothes off like a drill sergeant. Yes sergeant major yes sir and half through it I quit the camp and retired. I told her the mood is ruined, and packed her into a cab, saluted and dismissed myself.
The Retirement Plan
Need no introduction this one, we all been there. She was a tax officer. Very attractive, well-read, calm, seemed like my vibe. But a few dates in, she is just nodding and only answering my questions, not adding anything and barely asking anything about me. Anyways, after couple of week she asked, if I think this could get serious. I said yes, I'm seriously interested in pursuing this. She had some points she wanted to talk first and I was called up for a meeting, to read her terms and conditions, it goes like this
Don't wanna cook, not because she don't want to, she just can't cook and her cooking is so bad it will be torture for anyone who eat it
Don't wanna pray, or asked to pray or being asked to perform traditional rituals
Don't wanna party on weekend, or go out for travels, or forced to socialize, she prefer isolation
Non-veg can't be made at home no matter what
She will only stay in bangalore, that's absolutely non-negotiable.
Don't wanna live with in-laws
Her money is her money
and so on..... there were many points like this
In that moment ngl, it seemed reasonable to me, but the way it was delivered was very off. I took it in stride still and said we can discuss more in details. Later at a pub, I finally tried to open up about my own life and interests and some how got into talking about religion - she pulled out her phone, started texting, and giggling while I was mid-sentence. I felt bad and I told her it's getting late I need to be somewhere and we parted. Next day I called her out on the disrespect I felt, she simply said she found my topic boring. I didn't respond anything afterwards and never heard from her again either. I think she protected her peace and I protected my wallet.
The spiritual egoism
Working in HR I think automatically makes you good at sourcing candidates and then...... rejecting them. But somehow in HR you reach a level of spirituality that no mere mortal has yet attained. This one doesn't land far from those ethos. Well to her credit, sourcing wasn't a trouble, men lined up for her anywhere. Met her at mixer event, only she was the organizer. Just like all mixer events, participants are shit, organizer is hot. Anyways, after some persistence she agreed to meet, and we met 3-4 times. She kept telling me about what all grand gestures her past suitors have done for her, and all that is so excessive cuz how spiritual she is and if and when I anyone uses that word how triggered she gets since people don't understand what spirituality means. She is interested in character of the person not what he brings to the table. deluded myself I did, - I have a character, I have resources and I ain't half as bad, so I thought let's break my back once again, chasing a pretty. And boy did I break my back indeed! I carried conversations so long and hard for about a month, before I back gave in. Well these days I do cobra and child pose every morning and add a bit of hyperextension occasionally and when I point upwards I remember to be spiritual about it.
There are more casuals dates I have had in JP nagar and even some casual scenes. But not worth mentioning each. Thanks for reading this, I took 1 hour to write this without AI.